Violence nature or nurture

The violence nature or nurture question explained

Violence nature or nurture. Some studies show that people are genetically predisposed to have certain tendencies, while other studies show that the environment is the main thing behind behavior. I think science hasn’t shed enough light on the subject. Nature or nurture, including violence nature or nurture, is a dilemma we hear over and over everywhere we go. Using observation and logic and a basic analytical process, we can see that a person’s environment plays a huge role in who they become as a person. Some people think of “the environment” as just a place where people live or where they go to school. They give the siblings example and say something like “Look at Johnny and Bobby. They went to the same school, have the same parents, did everything together, etc., etc., and Bobby turned out good while Johnny turned out bad.” That’s a silly argument because we have not been there with either Johnny or Bobby every step of the way to know if their environment was “actually” the same. You can look at this from another point of view. For example, think of Bobby and Johnny as twins. Can you see where this is going? What if their mother, for whatever reason, treats them differently. That alone makes each of their environments vastly different. If genes are all that matters, you would think that Bobby and Johnny would be the same people no matter what happens. But the truth is not even close to that. To create a better world, we must create better conditions for everyone. Humanisation is the solution.

Personality vs identity

Personality vs Identity: What’s the difference anyway?

There has been a long-standing battle between personality vs identity, with many people believing that they basically mean the same thing. These two terms do not mean the same thing, but we need both of them in order to exist. Identity is a representation of who or what you are, which is normally evidenced by you being. It could also be evidenced by your name or your gender and represents your core attributes. Personality, on the other hand, is the sum of qualities, behaviours and reactions that a person develops over a period of years and sticks to them. Personality is a combination of things that go hand in hand with your identity. The relation between personality vs identity is simple; every identity has a personality. Your identity, most often than not, will not change because if your name is John, it will remain John and if your physiology is male it will rarely change, unless you identify otherwise. Changing personality is quite simple all you need to ask yourself is would you be happier with a different personality? Personality is very fluid and can change quite easily depending on your environment or age.

The “i” in life and Apple products

So what do you think the ‘i’ stands for, every really thought about it? The girl in the Apple shop had not got a clue neither had the friends I asked. One offered ‘I’ meaning me or mine, looked stumped when I said wouldn’t that have been mpod. An example of the Apple 'I' range - what does it mean to you?

So off I trot to have a look and it turns out it is because of an advertising veteran, Ken Segal; he created the Apple ‘Think Different’ campaign , according to an interview he gave he suggested the ‘i’ with the intention it could stand for a host of words for like, internet, imaginative, individual.  I like individual in fact rather like the way it can adapt to what you want and still retain its identity.

Another term that has always interested me is Geek and by default Nerd. What is the difference? Is there one? Apparently there is and I decided to let you all follow a link and work it out for yourselves as I ended up as confused as when I started and then ‘dork’ gets thrown in.  I actually found a blog where it was much better described:

  • Nerd – intelligent, industrious, understands things
  • Geek – Interested in things that others are not interested in, know a lot about their interests, but usually do not understand underlying principles
  • Dork – Foolish, stupid, clumsy

I recommend you read the blog and the reasoning for the above.

What is love according to science?

What is love according to science? To most of us, love is an abstract concept, full of good feelings and a sense of affection, protection, and attraction. But while all this is true, there are scientific explanations as to why we feel this way, to begin with. So What is the science behind love? There are different kinds of love, and one of the most basic is familial love, the love for children and family. This is based on a need for survival – maternal and paternal instincts are there to protect the offspring that is so dependent on them to live. The family, or child, becomes the most important part of the parent’s life, simply because they need to protect their genetic heritage. Romantic love has many of the same qualities but comes about through a mix of hormones like serotonin, oxytocin and adrenaline that combined causes an exotic cocktail that in turn causes attraction. This is to find a partner and by doing so, you guessed it, protecting and carrying on the genetic heritage. So, what is love according to science? It’s related to chemicals and hormones, and functions in nature and biology. But that doesn’t mean that the love a parent feels for their child, the love someone feels for their friend, spouse or family, is any less real and genuine.


Cyber Crime: A Very Real Threat to Data Security

Cyber Crime, a threat to digital economy

Cyber Crime has been well portrayed in Hollywood movies. But it is a real problem not just a movie plot. Cyber Crime is becoming more and more prominent, with almost all business and other data going online. Prime Minister John Key addressing internet attacks at the first ever New Zealand cyber security summit focused on this aspect. He talked about the threat cyber attacks are for a country’s economy. They can undermine the competitive advantage and cost the economy millions of dollars. In his address, the Prime Minister also spoke about joining hands with business and stressed the importance of involving everybody. He also addressed the importance of the internet in taking the digital economy forward. The importance of being safe from cyber crime was shown in the pledge to invest $22.2 million in the 2016 budget towards cyber security. All the points that the prime Ministers addressed are very real and need to be given the appropriate amount of attention. The digital boom has helped to keep the New Zealand economy on the positive side and we want it to stay that way, this is a very necessary step the right direction.

What is a family? It depends

what is family

As you know, ‘family’ represents a single word, but different people define family in many different ways. So, what is a family? It can be pretty hard to describe the word, but the first thing that comes to mind when you mention it is a shelter or a safe place to be, right? The people you call a family are important to you in some way and you always set them apart from the rest of the world. If you try to find the word in a dictionary, you will get an explanation that says that a family consists of a dad, mom, and kids, but is it really necessary to have all of the aforementioned members to have a real family? Some people consider their pets and closest friends to be members of their family, too. This traditional structure of a family is not a guarantee that you have all of the support and love a family has to offer to be a real family, because that’s what family does! What is a family for you?

Am I Selfish?


Taking care of yourself is as important as taking care of someone else

Are we ‘selfish’ if we do not want to give up our time to charity? If that time is already spoken for? I was made to feel very uncomfortable that I would not help out at a charity fundraiser. I had plans for the weekend I did not want to cancel but I was very much made to feel that it was selfish of me not to want to help.

I know the word has negative connotations, ‘being selfish is wrong’, ‘you have to help others first and so on and so forth. I do not agree, looking after yourself is important, if you do not, how can you help others. People throw the term ‘selfish’ around , I feel this is done when they are not getting what they want or expect. No I am not talking about ignoring the needs of others but finding a balance and being Ok with taking care of yourself. I should not have to justify what I give my time and money to and what I choose not to. There has to be a cut off point and I think it has to be a personal decision. I support a couple of charities that offer education to women, I do this by some funds but mainly by giving 2 hours a week to teach a class of women to read. I do not have to shout it to the world, it is something I can do and have the time for at this moment. That might change, I am not selfish if I need to change with the circumstances in my life. I need this weekend away to recharge my batteries otherwise I will be flagging emotionally and physically very soon. I should not have to defend my decisions and I am not going to.

What does Charity mean? I cannot answer that for others but I would be interested in how others view it. Does it begin at home? My answer is yes, then you can start to radiate out. You cannot turn ( well I cannot) a blind eye to the problems this world has but not everyone has the resources (time or money) to give. I like to think I use my social media networking to let others know what is going on in the world but even there you have to be careful not to overwhelm others with your view of what need and charity should be.

Taking care of oneself is not selfish it is common sense

Is it charity to give a friend money when they are struggling or better to help them find a management plan that will help eradicate the problem, either by a budgeting plan, or loan, you can read more about loans here. Giving time to listen and advise, is to me charity, where just handing over money is pushing the problem to one side. not that the person requesting is always in tune with what you are suggesting, it is not easy to ask a friend for money. Being aware of that and offering to help sort it out is what I am about in that way I like to think I contribute and am not ‘selfish’.

I feel better for getting that all out, might be a bit jumbled but I think you can see where I am coming from, let me know what your thoughts are on charity and giving.


Why do People get Hypercritical on Things That Don’t Really matter?

One of the things I have noticed in my wanderings around the internet is how picky & pernickity people can be. If you put something out there, posts, articles blogs etc, you really do have to be thick skinned as someone somewhere will take exception to it.You can find slang in every language the word over.

I was reading about slang and found a blog with a post about how invented words became part of our language. I found it fairly interesting, not an academic treatise but reasonable. Then I read the comments, the first one asked for academic literature to back the post up and the rest of the comments were not much better. Why so critical? I read the article with the understanding it was the author’s perspective not a definitive piece of work and I found it an very interesting. I do not understand why the people making the comment went off on tangents, the need to correct, point out the writer was wrong. Then I remembered something our psych lecturer said when I was at university, ‘people like to think they know more than the next man’, maybe that is why? Also apparently smart people like to be right even to the point of defending bad ideas according to Scott Berkun who considers himself  a recovering smart person.

Now a question for any one reading this, why do we write Christmas as ‘X’mas? I also want to know are we heading to only communicate in acronyms? SWALK… 🙂